Starting a FemDom marriage in the Vanilla Kingdom

History - Subtle Beginnings

Like most young boys, my first steps into erotica were browsing the lingerie section of the JCPenny’s fall catalog.  When I got a little older, I had my first taste of hard core porn courtesy of ON-TV, a pay TV service in the days before cable, who had an "After Dark" lineup that could be partially descrambled with some clever use of UHF fine tuning.

Then, one day, I came across an ad for the Adam & Eve catalog in the back of a magazine.  I ordered it (being first to the mail was just another perk of being a latch-key kid) and a new world opened up for me.  Besides the interesting new toys I became aware of, they also had an interesting selection of soft-core bondage magazines.  Until that point, I had never considered tying someone up for fun.  By that point, I already had enough childhood trauma to make me a likely BDSM aficionado (more on that later) and was intrigued.  Of course, the pictures all featured women tied up, but the basic concept gave me plenty to try in my own solo play.

After I had been dating my first serious high school girlfriend for awhile, I brought up the subject of bondage and we tried some games of tying each other to the pull out couch in my Mom’s basement.  (The frame was an ideal bondage bed.)  Being the one in charge was okay, but I usually couldn’t wait for my turn to be strapped down.

Fast forward a few years and I joined the Navy and wound up stationed in Japan.  Hoo, boy - was that a great place to learn more about bondage.  While most of the videos and books I found were women in bondage, I once again found myself dreaming about being in their place.  I also found a number of fantastic bondage gear shops all around where I was stationed and starting building my first collection of toys.  (It was all destroyed in the big moving truck crash forcing me to rebuild, but that’s yet another story for another day.)

All of the above is just a preamble, really.  Through all that lusting and tinkering, I never really understood the D/s relationship until the first time I had been in placed in bondage by an experienced Domme and taught the sweet joy of servitude.

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