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Today, I spent three hours talking with my wife about our sex lives.

The main topic was sexual pleasure versus sexual contentment.  Sexual pleasure is the 3-second orgasm and the good feeling you get from touching those special places.  Sexual contentment is the emotional attachment to sex, the Karma Sutra and the pleasures of subspace.

This distinction was an important one for my wife.  For the longest time, she thought that me telling her I wasn’t content meant that she couldn’t please me sexually.  What I tried to explain to her was that I find sex pleasurable, but the reason I’ve always felt that something was missing was because I’m not content.  I have been sexually submissive as long as I can remember and my feeling lost sexually was me not feeding the core part of my sexuality.

Of course, I still don’t know how to make those two things mesh.  My wife and I both agree that, while we may be able to please each other sexually, neither of us can make the other content at the moment and have no idea how to fix that.  My answer, of course, is to get my wife and Mistress Trecia together or, at the very least, both a part of my life.

We actually didn’t come up with any conclusions, but just getting the topics themselves out in the open is good at this point.  The last time we were at this crossroad, we just gave up and parted ways.  This time, we’re actually taking the time to figure out what the causes of our unhappiness and trying to address them.

Hopefully, these talks will eventually allow us to figure out ourselves and how we can each be happy.