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Clubs and a Trip!

June 05th, 2007 | Category: General Stuff, FemDom Marriage, Chicago BDSM Community

MJ and I have been doing a lot of thinking and we’ve decided to sign up for a trial membership at Galleria Domain. Of the clubs we’ve seen in Chicago, that one had the best atmosphere and was owned and operated by a Domme, so it seems to be the best one for our tastes and needs educationally. This coming Saturday, they are having a teaching session all about floggers and we are going to be in attendance. Something tells me I’m going to have some cool marks come Sunday morning.

Also, MJ came to me this past weekend and said She wants to go to a BDSM convention. We had been planning to get away for a week or more this year, but hadn’t yet decided where to go. I was thrilled at the revelation and immediately jumped on the web with MJ at my shoulder to go through the list of possible destinations She had prepared.

The one that sounds perfect for us is the Southeast Leather Fest in Atlanta. Almost all of the sessions discuss long-term 24/7 D/s relationships and/or the service lifestyle. Unfortunately, it is this coming weekend and we didn’t think we could pull together the money or vacation requests in such a short amount of time.

Then, we discovered the next best thing: Denver’s Thunder in the Mountains. It’s in mid-July which means my annual bonus will kick in just before we go meaning we’ll be able to enjoy ourselves and not have to try and attend on the cheap. The seminars are also interesting with a lot of practical demonstrations.

The best part is the list of presenters. Two of the people on the list are none other than Dr. Gloria Brame (author of "Different Loving", the book that helped set MJ and I down this path) and the legendary Larry Townsend (author of "Leatherman’s Handbook" which practically started the current BDSM community state). I’ve actually been fortunate enough to have traded e-mails with Dr. Brame and would really love a chance to meet her in person, even if just to make a charity donation in exchange for an autograph. (She will be signing body parts to raise money for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, a service which includes a "pain or no pain" option. Sounds intriguing!)

Plus, since we’re registering early enough, we were able to get a room in the hotel that is hosting the convention. (It turns out that Thunder is taking over the entire 450 room hotel for the weekend, so we be wholly surrounded by kinky folk during the event.) I do a lot of game and tech conventions and staying in another hotel is a huge pain, more so because we’ll be wanting to dress for the event (something that would make travel from another hotel interesting to say the least) and also have our toy bags in tow.

I am so excited about this event! They have a massive dungeon space as part of the event and MJ and I have been discussing playing in public, especially since she will have lots of new techniques to practice! It’s also our first venture out into the national community and we’re both hoping to make some new friends and learn more about ourselves and our relationship.

I can’t post pictures of the event (cameras are strictly forbidden), but I will be sure to post running updates while we are there. Only 44 days and counting!

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TMI Tuesday #86

June 05th, 2007 | Category: TMI Tuesdays

Here are this week’s answers for TMI Tuesday:

1. Should guys wear pink?

Yes, if you just stepped out of a time machine from 1984. (Actually, some guys can still almost pull it off, but the last guy to really own bright pink was Don Johnson.)

2. Do you kiss with your eyes open or closed?

Closed. I’m all about the sensations and not the sight. I really only like to watch when I’m not physically involved.

3. What is the first "non-physical" feature you tend to notice about a person you find attractive?

Brains. I will actually no longer find someone attractive if they open their mouth and prove themselves to be lacking in intelligence. (Case in point: Gillian Anderson. I saw her on the Tonight Show and she came off like a giggling idiot. My Scully fantasies stopped at that moment…

4. Have you ever showered with someone of the opposite sex?

Yes, both in the normal "boys in the gym" scenario and in a sexual setting.

5. Would you rather receive amazing oral sex or have amazing sex?

I actually don’t get a lot of pleasure out of oral sex, so for me a night of amazing sex would be much preferred.

Bonus (as in optional): If you could say anything you wanted anonymously to anyone, without identifying that person, what would you say?

I’m sorry I didn’t understand what you were trying to say until it was too late. It’s probably just as well - I didn’t feel the same way about you.

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Sugasm #82

June 05th, 2007 | Category: Sugasm

The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #83? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Back Surgery and Sex-How do you connect sexually when you can’t connect physically? (deliciously-naughty.typepad.com…)
“There was no sex. It wasn’t possible.”

A Hard Day’s Play - part 4 (curvaceousdee.blogspot.com…)
“But all the while, there was the awareness of the runes.”

Unrequited (junohenry.wordpress.com…)
“The man in question is a friend and sometime fuck-buddy.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Google Search: &imgtype=face (sugarbank.com…)

Editor’s Choice
Coffee (gentlygently.blogspot.com…)

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Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
The Friday Night Bookstore Crowd (silent-porn-star.blogspot.com…)
A hundred blowjobs in one night? (www.katiegirl4u.com…)
Poly & Death (perverselypoly.blogspot.com…)
Polyamory from a Lesbian Point of View (practicalpolyamory.blogspot.com…)
“When he was just a word.” (un-cool.blogspot.com…)