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TMI Tuesday #142 - Deadly Sins Edition

1. LUST: Besides your current Significant Other who do you lust for or have you lusted for?

As previously discussed, Melanie Anton and pre-skinny Sara Rue are my two biggest lusts.  There’s also this woman at work whom I would love to see naked.  (She’s heavyset and has amazingly impressive breasts.  She is also incredibly sweet, so I always wind up feeling guilty after I sneak a glance.)

2. GLUTTONY: What food brings out your inner glutton?

Cheese.  I love all kinds, especially if it is hot and gooey on top of other foods.

3. GREED: What are you greedy for?

Games.  I’m a board and card game collector and currently have over 400 titles. 

4. SLOTH: What is your plan for an ideal day of sloth?

Sitting on the couch watching movies or playing video games.  I’m a big fan of escapist entertainment.

5. WRATH: Describe a time that you let out a can of whoop ass on someone.

I had a former coworker who did nothing except create more work for everyone else.  So, I got a copy of her resume, corrected all the spelling errors (it’s a miracle we hired her), and started faxing it out to other firms.  The topper was when, in a fit of anger, I Googled "magazine free trial" and spend an entire day signing her up for every magazine that came up.  (The final list was over 500 publications including such gems as the gay travel digest "Out & About" and "Icelandic Horse and Travel Magazine".)  She eventually left, but the guys I work with are still scared of me.

6. ENVY: Who or what do you envy? Why?

I envy rich people.  I’d love to have the freedom to work at a job I love that paid next to nothing and also stay home with my Miss and daughter as much as possible.

7. PRIDE: Have you ever had to swallow your pride? What are you proud of?

In the corporate world, you basically have to swallow your pride on a daily basis.  One of my former team leaders was a woman with a lot of power who like to take credit for everyone’s work.  If you tried to prevent her from doing so, she would start calling you out during meetings to make you look stupid and also spread nasty rumors about you.  It was easier to suck it up and let her have the credit.

I’m proud of my family and of the fact that we’ve managed to salvage our marriage and work out a relationship where we can both be happy.

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TMI Tuesday #139

1. What’s your favorite color of lingerie?

Usually black, but it depends on who’s wearing it.  (MJ looks really good in reds and blues.)

2. Do you have a porn collection?

Oh, yes.  I’m actually in the process of paring it down since I felt a Terabyte of porn was a little excessive.  My current collection spans all genres, but generally focuses on BDSM and BBWs.

3. Do you have any fetishes?

Take a look around - what do you think?  *smile*  I’d list them here, but that would take all day.  My biggest is obviously BDSM followed by a love for big women.  Lately, I’ve been fixated on play piercing and needle play.  (I just can’t get it out of my mind and hope that MJ will someday be willing to let me experience that.)

4. What is your favorite place to have sex?

I honestly don’t have a favorite place.  I typically like the physical interaction itself to be the centerpiece of the experience, so where it takes place is secondary.  (With that said, I’d love to try sex in public or at least the limited public of the BDSM club we belong to.  Now that I’m used to (and enjoy) being exposed in public, my new exhibitionist side is curious about going "all the way" with an audience.)

5. Do you like to scratch, bite, pull hair, etc? Do you like having it done to you?

Love having it done to me!  When MJ pulls my hair, it immediately puts me into a completely submissive zone.  I also like it when she bites the back of my neck or uses those luscious nails of hers anywhere on my body.

Bonus (as in optional): Do you think the number of sexual partners you’ve had is below average, average, or above average, and how does that make you feel?

Above average.  I’m actually okay with that.  I know a couple of guys who have only ever had one partner and I feel sorry for them missing out on the amazing variety of sexual pleasures out there.

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TMI Tuesday #138

1. If you’re in love with your partner, does it make the sex better?

Absolutely!  There is something to be said about dirty, raunchy sex with someone you don’t know that well, but the emotional connection you can have is just amazing.  (I think that’s one of the reasons I love D/s so much - it’s all about that connection even when you’re not physically involved.)

2. What is the most expensive sex toy you’ve ever purchased?

My Venus 2000.  My electrosex gear was expensive (especially since I want to add a high-end power box and a violet wand), but that was the single largest purchase at around $1,200.

3. If you knew ahead of time you would not have an orgasm, would you still have sex?

Yes!  Tease and denial can be really fun games.  Part of my role as sub is to please my MIss without regard to my own pleasure.  Forcing a man to have sex then deny him his release can be a really powerful D/s experience for both parties.

sararue4. What celebrity would you most like to have sex with if given the chance?

Sara Rue, but only if I could go back in time before she got skinny.  (She was *so* hot in Gypsy 83 [on the left] and even in her "Less Than Perfect" show.)  I’m also a big Melanie Anton fan, but I don’t think 90’s BBW porn stars count as "celebrities".

 5. Have you ever had sex while an audience watched?

A few times.  I used to go to a few different swingers parties in San Diego and there were always people just watching.  The most interesting started as a seven-person grope in the hot tub.

Bonus (as in optional): Describe the best sexual encounter you’ve ever had.

That’s actually kinda tough.  For just "regular" sex, it’s probably when I was back in college.  I worked for the college arts department and had keys to the stage and scene shop.  I took my girlfriend (who is now my Mistress/Wife) on a surprise late-night visit backstage.  It was really creepy and erotic.  I laid out a mattress that was in the prop room in one of the side stage alcoves and we made love by flashlight.

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TMI Tuesday #137

I was torn about this week’s questions.  They seemed a little gender specific and borderline offensive.  Since none of the other commenters at TMI Tuesday thought this was an issue, I figured it might just me being overly sensitive.  In any case, Happy TMI Tuesday!

1. How old were you when you first kissed a boy?
16 - I kissed girls before then (including getting trouble in preschool for smooching during "circle time"), but that was my first boy kiss.

2. Who would play you in the movie of your life story?
Appearance-wise, probably Kevin Smith.  Actually, he’s a good choice all around.  (Funny, wacky, gigantic geek, etc.)

3. What is the number one thing your love/hate about gay people?
Um, what?  I’m not going to answer this one because (a) bad English and (b) it’s rather bigoted.  To paraphrase Denis Leary:  I don’t judge people by their race or sexual orientation.  I figure I can find something unique to hate in each and every person.

4. If you could legally get married to "the fella" - or any fella - would you?
Sure.  (I have been married to a woman for 17 years.  Does that count?)

5. Have you ever worn short short shorts in public?

Bonus (as in optional): Who is your favorite blogger?
At the moment, Curvaceous Dee.  (Great writing and sexy pictures - what’s not to like?)


TMI Tuesday #136

1. What lines have you used to let someone down gently.

I had a girl tell me once that she was already seeing someone and that he was incredibly jealous so I should probably stay clear for my own good.  I had a massive crush on her in high school and in retrospect that was probably the nicest way she could have told me "I’m not interested - go away."

2. If I gave you $10K to waste, what would you buy.

I’d probably stock our toy cabinet and/or pick up some BDSM furniture.  (Actually, I’d rather take the money and travel either with the family or as a couple’s getaway.

3. If I gave you $10K, but you had to spend it all on someone else, what would you buy.

I’d probably just donate it all to Child’s Play.

4. If your partner brought a double dildo to bed, you’d be ____________?

Thrilled!  Nothing says "submissive" for a guy than taking it in the ass.

5. What sounds to you make during sex.

Grunting mostly.  (Or begging - it depends on what we’re doing at the time.)

Bonus (as in optional): Tell your worst break up story.

I’ve had a couple, but none as dramatic as my crash and burn with Mistress Natalie.

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TMI Tuesday #135

1. How many credit cards do you own? Are they paid off?

Five and no.  A few of them are retail cards that are floating "0% / No Payment" deals and the rest are going to be rolled into our refinancing as soon as we finish remodeling.

2. Can you be in love with someone you don’t trust?

Oh, sure you can.  It’s just not a great idea.  (I can be too quick to trust and have been hurt because of it many times.) 

3. Should prostitution be legal?

Absolutely!  If both parties are consenting, then being legal means it can be regulated (health checks, anti-fraud measures, etc.) and taxed. 

4. On a scale of 1-10, how good of a lover do you think you are? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest)

Oral, I’m probably a 7 - 8.  For straight intercourse, probably a 5 - 6.  In the realm of erotic servitude, a high 9.

5. What are three mistakes someone could make on the first date with you that would automatically make you turn down a second date with them?

  1. If they seem unintelligent.
  2. If they chew with their mouth open.  (This includes gum chewing.)
  3. If there doesn’t seem to be a connection between us.

Anything else can usually be overcome.

Bonus (as in optional): Tell us about your worst date ever.

There was a girl in high school that I was gaga over and I managed to finally get up the nerve to ask her out.  I took her to a nice restaurant and she ordered the most expensive thing on the menu (a full lobster).  (The final bill was so high, I almost couldn’t pay for dinner!)  She then spent the evening talking about her other boyfriends.   (Yes - she didn’t want to "get tied down".)  For some reason, I tried to take her out a second time, but she never returned my calls.  I found out later that she was actually dating another guy seriously and probably just went out with me for the free dinner.

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TMI Tuesday #134

Hey, everyone!  It’s time once again for TMI Tuesday!

1. Is there a TV show you HAVE to watch? If so, what is it?

How I Met Your Mother.  I am a huge fan of Neil Patrick Harris and Allison Hannigan and love the writing.  (Granted, nothing has been able to match their spectacular first season, but it’s still great television.)

2. What is you favorite drink if you are going to drink more than one?

A really good Scotch.  If I’m drinking on the cheap, I go with Jack Daniels and 7-Up.

3. How long do you carry guilt around with you?

I tend to really internalize guilt and carry it around for a very long time.  I still get pangs from things that happened 20 years ago or more.  I really need to learn to let go a little better.

4. Where is or would be your number one romantic get away spot?

The BDSM club MJ and I belong to.  For more old school romance, there are some secluded cabins we like to rent that are a lovey-dovey couple’s paradise.

5. Have you ever seen a counselor?

Several and they all sucked.  Each one tried to change me to some generic ideal or drug my emotions away and none wanted me to embrace my true self or told me that my feelings were "wrong".  Now that I understand my needs as a submissive, I’ve never been happier!  (This site is a monument to that awakening - check out my About page for the full story.)

Bonus (as in optional): Last summer the Archives of Sexual Behavior the 237 reasons people have sex and the Top 50 Reasons Men and Women Have Sex. What are your top 5 reasons?

  • I enjoy how it makes me feel.
  • I like giving someone else pleasure.
  • I enjoy the intimate connection it creates.
  • I like being completely exposed to another person (body and soul).
  • I want babies!

TMI Tuesday #133

Hello!  Time again for another TMI Tuesday!

1. How many cell phones have you had? How long have you had your current cell phone number?
Seven or eight.  My current cell phone is one provided by work and I’ve had it for about four years now.

2. Where was the last place you had sex?
In the bedroom.  While the location may seem mundane, the sex was anything but!

 3. On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with your love life? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest)
8 at the moment, but only because MJ and I are still getting back up to speed after the birth of our daughter.  We did have "relations" three times last week, so I can’t complain about anything!

4. Does Bliss sound like a fun game to you? Have you ever played it?
First - this seems like product placement in TMI Tuesday which is something I’m not thrilled about.  As for the game itself, MJ and I have tried a series of these types of games and never seem to have as much fun with them as we do with our own games.  It might be great for couples trying to get out of a rut, but MJ’s wicked imagination keeps me on my toes most of the time without the help of these types of games.

5. Is there anything or anyone you would be willing to die for?
I would put myself between a fatal situation and my wife and / or daughter without even blinking.

Bonus (as in optional): If you were (or had) a magic genie and could only grant wishes for others and you only had three left, what would they be and who would they be for?
1.  Grant good health and good fortune for my daughter.

2.  The same wish as #1, but for my wife.

3.  That all the various religions and sects in the Middle East would find a way to peacefully coexist.


TMI Tuesday #132

1. Early bird or night owl?
Night owl.  There is a totally different energy after dark that I really like.  At one point in my life, I actually chose to sleep during the day vampire style.

2. Where was the first place you ever had sex?
In the bed that belonged to my girlfriend’s parents.  She had a single which didn’t give us enough room to play.  I have many fond memories of that king sized bed…

3. On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest)
Usually an 8 or 9.  I know that sounds crazy, but last year I finally broke out of my dark depression after finding and embracing my true nature.  (This site is a testimonial to the events around that awakening.)

4. Are you more submissive or dominant?
Sexually submissive.  In my day to day life, however, I usually don’t let myself be pushed around. 

5. Do you believe in love at first sight?
It’s how I met my wife.  I saw her and immediately wanted to get to know her better.  We were only 19, but I proposed three months later.  I think it’s going to work out, though - we just had our 17th anniversary two weeks ago!

Bonus (as in optional): Describe your bed time habits. What side do you sleep on? What do you usual wear? Any night time rituals?

I usually sleep on my left side and wear shorts or PJ bottoms and a t-shirt.  I used to sleep nude, but it seems less practical with a little one in the house. 

I do have a ritual - I have to lay out my pillows and blankets in a certain way every night.  It’s one of the small OCD moments I allow myself.


TMI Tuesday #132

1. Pancakes or waffles? With or without toppings?

That’s a on tough one.  Usually pancakes with margarine and maple syrup.

2. They say, "Way to a man’s heart is through his stomach." What is the way to your heart?

Tie me up!  I’m on on sub by nature and have on on habit of falling hard for Dommes.  Fortunately, I married a Domme-in-waiting!

3. Have you ever gone to a topless/clothing optional beach? If yes, did you participate?

Yes and yes.  I visited them in Pattaya Beach, Thailand and in San Diego.  I’m about as white as white boys get, but I managed to go naked without a sunburn both times.

4. What song reminds you of a previous relationship (for good or bad)?

"Le Disco" by Shiny Toy Guns reminds me of a Domme I used to know.  The relationship was good in a lot of ways, but the break up was really bad.

5. When, where and with who was your best kiss ever?

1989.  I was walking behind my girlfriend (now my wife), spun her around so her back was against the wall, then kissed her.  She melted completely…

Bonus (as in optional): Does anyone not currently in a relationship with you have pictures or you or your body part(s) that you would prefer that other people not see?

Many people have nude photos of me.  I did two model shoots, one of which is still available on a pay site.  My wife has a set I took of myself when I was in the Navy.  I posted a bunch here.  There’s also a sex video possibly floating around.  In other word, I shouldn’t run for public office!

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